September 11, 2019 posted by

Hi everyone welcome back I hope you’re
well? Today I’m doing a video that I’ve never done before on this channel and
I’m not sure that there are many out there like this it’s all about self
defense in a wheelchair keeping safe when you’ve got a disability and
traveling alone at night. The Northern hemisphere is coming into winter and
quite a lot of us have put our clocks back, which can only mean one thing, dark
long, evenings, and that can also mean traveling alone in the dark. I don’t know
about you but I get a little scared when I’m traveling alone on my own. I feel
very vulnerable and I think also sometimes people can see us as a good
target because we have an impairment or a disability. But hopefully in this video
I’m going to be giving you some tips on how to keep safe, I’m going to also be
giving you some self-defense ideas as well, in a wheelchair, so that will be
interesting, stick around for that later on. Of course share this video with anybody
out there who you think may like it will need it or… whatever really. Just a small
sort of side note I’m gonna be talking about a little bit of violence and some
things may not be appropriate for, maybe younger, little people who might be sort
of half listening around. You may want to watch this on your own later. However if you
think this sounds quite intriguing, thumbs up and let’s carry on
and I’ll give you a few tips and ideas along the way. So tip number one (now many
things may seem a little obvious to begin with) but obviously tell someone
where you’re going, when you’re going to be there when, you’re leaving and when,
you’re going to be arriving. I have girly nights with my sister quite a lot
and always text my husband I say I’m leaving in five so he can expect me when
I’m home and then I text my sister and let her know that I have arrived safely.
I always feel a lot more secure when I know that someone is going to be expecting me or they want to know that I have arrived
somewhere. Another thing is if you are rolling or walking back to your car or
walking to your house on your own in the dark make sure that you are really
confident you’re alert you’re looking around, don’t be distracted with
headphones in don’t be looking down at your phone, that is such a big
distraction and something that everybody always recommends that you don’t do is
look at your phone. Have it to hand, I always have my phone and my keys to hand
so that if I need my phone I’ve got it or when I get to my car I can open my
car or I can confidently open up the house. Another thing is when I do unlock
my car, my car has got this option where you press it once, it just opens the
driver side, you press it twice and it opens up the whole car. I feel a lot
safer knowing that all of the other doors are locked while I’m getting
myself into the driver’s seat so that no one can sort of like slip in
the back and attack you from behind, or just jump into the passenger seat. I
always drive with my doors locked in fact my car actually looks
automatically when I go over a certain speed like 15 miles an hour or something
that always makes me feel a lot safer, and I always put my handbag in the footwell of
the car, or on the backseat where no one can see it because that’s another
thing that people could always smash your window to get your and handbag, so
always keep your valuables concealed. When I am coming back to the home and I
know that I’m going to be the only one and I am entering an empty house I
always leave a light on if I know I’m coming back when it’s going to be dark,
that makes me feel a lot more secure. Now another little tip for you is I always
flashed my lights at the house so if someone is watching from the bushes or
something they think, okay so she’s flashing her lights to alert someone
that’s inside the house. Another thing that I do is as I am coming up to the
house I’ll wave at the window (giggles) I know I, sound like an absolute nut
case again if someone is watching from a bush (because everyone watches from a
bush) they’ll think that there’s someone in the house
and they are less likely to attack you! and then I’ve got my keys to handed open up really confidently quickly in the house and I’ve made it! Another thing
that I always do is I always make sure that my hair is concealed. Now studies
have shown that attackers always look for hair if they’re going to be
attacking a woman because it’s something that is easy to grab hold of and it’s
sort of like a magnet for them just to grab you, so I always tuck my hair
into my jacket and sometimes I’ll put my hair up or I will put the hood up. If you
are putting a hood up though do you make sure that your vision is completely open,
sometimes it can conceal your vision and also they can conceal sound
as well, so make sure that you can hear and see as well as you possibly can if
you do put a hood up. This is a really obvious one but try and keep to
well-lit areas, busy areas don’t take the dark dodgy alleyway even if it is
shorter and it’s peeing down with rain, it’s not worth it I’d rather get wet and
go the busy way that’s well-lit rather than a dodgy alley. That is a very simple
one but, you know, it’s the safest one. Now a lot of people say carry a personal
alarm or pepper spray and things like that. If someone was going to attack me I
would shout “fire” now studies have shown that people respond more to someone who
is shouting “fire” than if they’re shouting “help” they’re attacking me or
just screaming (I apologize for the technical faults in this video) Now
let’s just think about it for a second if you were out and about and you were
to hear someone shouting “help” you might not necessarily feel the need to go and
check and see what it’s all about because it doesn’t actually put you in
any personal danger, you may also feel that maybe someone else will go and
have a look anyway. That’s actually called the bystander effect. However if
you were to hear someone shouting “fire” that then puts you at personal danger as
well and you’re more likely to go and suss out what it’s all about because the
fire may spread and it may harm you as well. So if this is why it’s a good idea
to shout “fire” rather than “help” if you are in any personal danger. I have not
been sexually attacked this last one is actually quite a nitty-gritty one and
it’s about preventing sexual attacks. So if you don’t want to hear it anymore
then fast forward and I’ll leave the timestamp here ( 8:37) However one night when I
was out I got segregated from my friends and I got chatting to a really friendly
bouncer and I said to him I was really nervous about going back to
my car on my own, and I hadn’t been drinking, and he said I’ll walk you back
to your car and before he walked me back to my car we were talking about sort of
self-defense and what you would do you know if you were to be attacked or
sexually attacked and and the tip that he had given me was if a guy was coming
to sexually attack you, you talk about how you’ve just got your period you have
just come on it’s really heavy you’re bleeding like crazy, make it really gross
and really disgusting. Men on the whole tend to be quite repulsed by periods and
bleeding and that kind of stuff so really go into graphic detail about it.
If you can you don’t know what would happen in that circumstance but as this
has stayed with me for so many years this kind of tip that I’ve had in the
back of my mind, I just thought maybe I should share it with you, it’s always
something that I’ve always thought what would I do in that situation
and that is something that I’ve got in the back of my mind that I can bring
forward. You would try anything in that situation to prevent it from happening.
So yeah obviously sexual harassment sexual attacks are nothing to be taken
lightly and that’s just something that I felt
like I really wanted to share with you guys. Okay so I have just shared with you
a few tips and ideas on keeping safe when you’re traveling alone at night in
dark and now I’m going to move over to a little bit of self-defense when you’re
in a wheelchair, and as I think I have said previously (I can’t remember) I’m not
a sensei or a martial artist and this is just what I would do, if you’ve
got any great tips then leave them down below and obviously I can’t accept any
responsibility for what you do after this video and these things should
really only be used in self-defense. The first thing that I often think is what
would I do if someone just got ahold of my wheelchair and just took off with me?
Like what would you do? The first thing is obviously you would want to put your
brakes on, but you and I know that it’s really tough to do that because the
wheels will be going fast and you can’t put the brakes on while the wheels are
going, well I know I can’t, it just feels like my fingers are gonna get cut off
and I think we’ve all experienced that at some point. So what you want to
do is, you want to stop the wheelchair so I think what I would do is throw my bag
on the floor or try and throw something in front of me to stop the wheelchair
going, and then I would just try to whack my brakes on, or another thing that you
could try and do is try and put something in the spokes to try and stop
it from moving. I don’t know what, maybe you’ve got handy stick in your bag but you know
we’re talking about life and death here and I’m sure like adrenaline
and instincts would kick in, but these are just the things that I have thought
about, I don’t know if I could chuck my bag in the spokes my phone my wallet I
mean anything in the spokes or throw anything in front of me if I could
try and take off my jacket think throw it in front of me to stop
the wheelchair then what I would do is I would try and get hold of my wheelchair
and just spin round as quickly as I could on a 360, my foot plates are lethal
they’re so sharp, and I would try and whack the attacker in the
ankles with the foot plate. You are at a good height for attackers, you’re in the
groin area so obviously you want to go for the groin you want to hit that as
hard as you possibly can or the kneecaps the kneecaps
are extremely sensitive to people who don’t have spinal injuries so
whack the kneecaps as hard as you can, then they will lean forward and you can grab
their neck, and you know another thing to think about is quite a lot of wheelchair
users are extremely strong strength in our upper body and I think a lot of
people do look at people in wheelchairs and think ooh vulnerability, (not
necessarily always the case especially after you watch this video)
you you know play your strengths to your strengths.
another thing roll out of the wheelchair roll onto your front so that you are
protected or you can roll onto your back and then you are able to try and attack
them as best you can. That’s kind of really all I got to say
about that but hopefully some of these tips will have helped you, if you’ve got
any self-defense ideas or indeed you do any martial arts and you’re a wheelchair
user or and have a disability I would love to know I am actually in the
process of trying to see if I can find out if I can do a martial arts sort of
video I have got a few contacts so if that’s something that you would like to
see then please give this a thumbs up so I can show it to the people involved and
we can try and work something out I know that I would love it. I’d love to get
involved in some martial arts. Don’t be scared to try and enrol in some
self-defense classes and try and do a little bit of boxing and things like
that as I said I know this isn’t a topic that
I would normally cover but I hope that you have found it interesting
maybe you’ve picked up some tips. As always please feel free to share, hope
you enjoyed this video make sure to subscribe if you haven’t already and I
look forward to seeing you in my Next one xxx



  1. Wheelsnoheels - Gem Hubbard says:

    I used to have to travel back home from work on my own late at night. I was always scared of being attacked, and I am still scared being on my own at night. I genuinely think about these things, and the tips that I have given you I use, and will pass down to my daughter to keep her as safe as possible when she is older. Stay safe my friends. xx

  2. Zebra Reviews says:

    At least they'd have difficulty trying to grab my hair.

    I shaved my head for charity

  3. Poppy May says:

    I loved this beautiful! Never thought someone would be that low to attack a disabled person 😟. Please check out my recent videos too xxx

  4. Jeff_Ginge says:

    I think this is a really valuable video. Even better than leaving a light on all the time when you're out, is to use a mechanical timer or smart home system to turn the light on only when it gets dark. A light on all the time can be a sign of an empty home for a burglar / your person in the bushes. It's also good to leave a radio on, to make the home seem occupied. see: https://www.police.uk/crime-prevention-advice/burglary/

  5. Bill M says:

    Quite a scary topic, something I'd not considered. So major kudos to you for taking time to speak to this!

  6. Drew Harris says:

    I have a personal alarm, and while I've never use it, I'm confident that it'll make anyone attacking me go away.

  7. Volvican says:

    VULnerable. There is a 'l'. Thank you for the tips – I do a lot of these. It's part of the reason I've always wanted arms on my wheelchair. Very easily accessible weapon if needed… or something to put in between spokes.

  8. Sophia Tiny Kitten Human says:

    It was before I was in a wheelchair ( and is only related in regards to people taking advantage of people due to disability) but when I was fifteen I was severely abused by a man who had wanted to be a special ed teacher (cannot now though never convicted) the abuse ended when I miscarried. And the period thing is a great idea. I wish that it had been more effective in my case though heh. To an extent I feel a little bit safer in my wheelchair because I can try to get away more effectively than on my feet. Do you feel that way at all? And I always carry pepper spray!

  9. #Sofa Queen says:

    Thoughtprovoking. In a good way. Yes please more of these. Great idea.

  10. Rachel Hayes-Smith says:

    Some great ideas in there Gem thank you. Would definitely be interested to see some more self defence info x

  11. juusojd says:

    Must be hell of a stress to think that you would be in that much danger all the time. Just saying…

  12. Kerry Sheehan says:

    You can also hit a woman in her groin too. It hurts us to be hit there too 🙂

  13. Birdie Perchy says:

    How on earth did you not fall out of your wheelchair when you laid it on the back like that?

  14. Miia - says:

    As bad as it sounds, it’s good to think these, so you know what to do if anything bad happens to you. Many people just freeze in situation like that, cause it’s such a shock and you don’t know what to do.

    We also have that two step lock in our car, it’s made around 2004, so it’s not just in newer cars.
    Also if I open the door the “original “ way, not with button, it also only opens the drivers door

    I’ve realised that “I just got my period” hack (sounds terrible to call it hack) too, like any way you can make yourself less…likeable, sorry I want to use less harsh words…but yea, anyway anything you can do to make you less of a target and also get to safe asap, then call for help.

  15. Miia - says:

    You are kinda easier target for attacker’s, but you also have some benefits, like the footplate. Also you’re harder to just pull/push into a car. You’re already sitting down, it’s more sturdy than someone just standing, specially if you have your breaks on.

    Ps. Hope no husbands were hurt while making this video ❤️

  16. Lauri Giepmans says:

    Omg this is awesome! It is so weird that I never even heard of this! This makes me feel so much safer

  17. tetsubo57 says:

    It breaks my heart that these things occupy your mind. As a large man they just don't.
    And I always respond to a cry of help. Or a scream. Due to my actions children have been removed from abusive homes.

  18. Lily Pluto says:

    Thanks for a great video! Really important topic that isn't discussed enough.

  19. Amy McRae says:

    For iPhones with iOS 11 or later, there are quick ways of calling emergency services. https://support.apple.com/en-ca/HT208076

  20. Carl Haydock says:

    It's a sad state when videos like this have to be made.

  21. bluedeva says:

    Great post Gem 👌🏻💪🏻🤗

  22. UTube Junkie says:

    I dunno. My guy friend tells me that if the man is under the influence of a drug and is set on assaulting you, the period thing may not matter.
    I suppose it is situational and at least worth a try depending on what is actually happening. I'll definitely keep it as a possible tool.

  23. chad williams says:

    I know this probably won’t help those in the UK, but if possible carry a sidearm if legal. Here in the USA, most people live in states that allow the carrying of concealed weapons. A good 9mm Glock or Colt .45 Auto will level the playing field between a large attacker and a weaker person.

  24. wheelie26 says:

    I’m glad that you are tackling the not so fluffy side of being in a wheelchair, sadly these things do happen, thankfully rarely, but if you are that rare statistic it’s best to have thought about it and even practiced a few times.
    Prior to my illness I used to teach techniques to health service staff about how to get out of various situations is someone grabs you or has a firm hold of you. These were mainly based on the way arms and hands do or don’t rotate and take some practice but are very effective, I’ve played around with them using my sons as would be attackers since being in my chair and not all of them work but enough for me to get loose, inflict some damage and get out of there. A lot of these techniques are based on martial arts so may be very similar to those your martial arts friend uses.

  25. jodi korab says:

    Thank you so much for this video! Just a couple self defense tips I have picked up over the years that I can share is…1. If someone is trying to rape you is to pee on yourself. 2. If you can get them to bend over by hitting the groin knees or ankles is to then smash the heel of your hand into their nose. It will make their eyes water and hurt like hell.

  26. koolnuts says:


  27. Tayyab Ahsan says:

    Love the video where's the house tour????

  28. Megan Guest says:

    It terms of putting your hair out of the way- ponytails are not a good idea because it gives the attacker something to get a strong hold of. It's harder for you to pull away from a hold on the entirety of your hair than if it was loose and they were only able to grab a section.

  29. Star Hunter says:

    I had absolutely no idea attackers look for hair! That's a really good thing to know. There really should be free or low cost classes for people with disabilities/people with wheelchairs. I'd definitely be interested in seeing more on thia type of defense! Obviously it's sad that we need it, however, it's better to hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

  30. Rose Mullen says:

    On the sexual assault one, I've heard before that the grosser you can be the better, so while it'll make laundry if you can pee yourself (or worse haha) it'll usually be enough to put them off.

  31. Mel Rineholt says:

    Hope you never need it are your legs totally paralyzed

  32. Timon Myside says:

    Thank you Gem an excellent thought provoking video. We often overlook how cruel people can be and how even just the perceived threat can affect confidence and general state of mind. I'm sure in the future your daughter will be a force to be reckoned with! Take good care.

  33. Fernandez T says:

    girl power + chair power: too cool

  34. Kierstynn Âu says:

    This is something that is always in my mind, especially with me having Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and being a wheelchair user just makes me feel that much more vulnerable. A wheelchair definitely changes how you need to protect yourself but I haven't found any places around where I live that have adaptive defense classes… but I do have a friend who is very skilled in Adaptive Martial Arts, she is a second degree black belt and a wheelchair user! She is amazing!

  35. Normal'sWayOverrated says:

    Also rapists are generally looking for easy targets, not likely to make a fuss, so if you kick up a fuss right away and make it difficult for them to move you to their ‘safe place’ they will often times give up and pick an easier target. Fighting back is ur best bet!

  36. Emilie Smith says:

    I'm a teenager and I really wanted to know how to defend myself! Thanks Gem!

  37. Kierstynn Âu says:

    I have a friend who is a 2nd degree black belt in Tykwando and has world championship titles who is a wheelchair user, she suggested looking into adaptive martial arts.

  38. ☀️ Sunny Days ☀️ says:

    Hi Gem, my hack for you is to get yourself a fake iPhone in case you are robbed! They are approx £10 on Amazon. They iPhone X is very realistic.

  39. Lorelei says:

    insert Oracle/Birds of Prey reference here But seriously, I've never had to think of this as I'm not physically disabled. But I think people should be aware of what wheelchair users face, particularly females.

    Edit: Also, make sure you check your backseat before entering your car to go.

  40. Lorelei says:

    Also, for martial arts, ask/check it out. A good sensei or instructor will be able to tailor to you.

  41. alvaro alas says:

    it's funny that you talk about self defense because i took tae kwon do and now i can break someone's throat with my finger tips

  42. laylyoldwild says:

    If I want to use my phone but not let people see that I have it I switch on voice over so that I can hear what I'm doing with it still in my pocket. I once prepared a phone number that way.

  43. Boomstick_Designs says:

    I'm in a wheelchair too but I guess being a guy and being in the states makes me have a vastly different perspective on defense… and yes I've taken defense courses in my chair as well…

  44. PageMonster says:

    Gem – I've just watched a video on Krav Maga techniques for wheelchair users. You might find it useful.

  45. koopaloop says:

    The spokes tip is genius

  46. Anna Senk says:

    I'm not in a wheelchair, but I'm in martial arts and thought I'd give a couple of tips.

    1. When making a fist, have your thumb on the outside of your other fingers instead of curling your fingers around your thumb. If your thumb is inside the fist, it's much more likely to be broken on impact.
    2. When punching, try to make impact with the knuckles of your pointer and middle finger where they connect to your palm. Since they stick out more, they're stronger.
    3. The kidneys, groin, and bottom of the sternum are some of the weakest points on the body. Those are good places to try to hit.
    4. One move that we learn in karate is grabbing the groin area and pulling. Works really well on men.
    5. If you fall forward out of your chair, try to fall onto your knees first, then fall straight forward with your elbows at a 90 degree angle so you land on your forearms. It will hurt a bit, but it's better than falling onto your wrists and elbows, which are joints and break more easily.
    6. Anytime you fall, try to avoid catching yourself with your wrists, since they'll break easily under the impact of a fall

  47. Rebekah Franklin says:

    I always worry about what would happen if someone tried to take my child it really scares me

  48. 1savd Soul says:

    Ive heard a great preventer for rape is to pee yourself. Ponytails and loose clothing are also an invite. They will choose to attack a person that seems timid or to have low self confidence over a confident person. I wish there was a program for disabled people to learn self defense. Its very scary to know you are unable to fight, run or defend yourself. Especially with all the shootings.

  49. Beetee Latier says:

    I just love your intro, it's so polite!
    I hope you are well!

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