How To Protect My Child On The Internet

November 4, 2019 posted by

It’s a risky world out there. Especially
on the internet. So, how do I protect my child on the Internet? I’ve got 4
clear pointers for you today. Before we get into those 4 points, let’s talk
about risk briefly. There’s 3 things that you can do about risk. The first
thing you might consider is to ignore the risk. Just ignore it. Pretend like
it’s not there. This would be like trying to cross a busy street to get to lunch.
And as you try to cross the street, you decide, “Oh, there’s a lot of traffic. I
better not look.” Close your eyes and hope for the best. What’s going to happen? If you ignore risk, you increase the danger. And I guarantee
you, the Internet can be a very, very risky place. So, I’m not sure we like that
particular option. How about avoiding the risk altogether? So, instead of ignoring
it, we’re going to avoid it. Nope, not going to go. Too dangerous. Well, you don’t
get to have lunch if you don’t cross the street, in the example that I shared. And
if we avoid the risk, we can close our children off from all kinds of
opportunities that are good and wholesome in principal centric. That are
there on the Internet. Including stuff on this channel. So, I
don’t like our choices so far, how about you? Ignoring risk, increases danger.
Avoiding risk, decreases the possibility of a payoff. We needed a third option.
What if we take a little walk about a half a block that way on this busy
street. We come to a crosswalk. We push the button. We wait for the signal and
when the signal gives us a green light… No, we don’t go yet. We look both
directions, don’t you? I hope you do. I do. Because it doesn’t eliminate the risk
entirely. I don’t think we can. But what that does is it brings the risk down to
a manageable level. So, we’re going to title this one manage the risk. It’s like
going to the crosswalk. There are 4 steps that
going to share with you next about managing the risk for your children on
the Internet. In the interest of managing the risk, let’s go to the obvious one
first. Number one, supervise. Provide a chaperone for your children in their
internet activities. Now, this might vary depending on the moral development or
stage of development for your kids. If you’re not sure what I’m referring to,
check out the video called Teaching Kids Responsibilities here on the channel.
That will go over the basic philosophy that I’m referring to right now. You keep
your eyes on your kids. Most internet predators are older than
your children. Is that a little scary? But they don’t always present themselves as
being older. They might try to be a peer or a friend or someone who’s
the same age. And your kids don’t know because they’re interacting with them on
some kind of a chat or a game platform or whatever it is. You supervise that
activity because you want to see what’s going on and that way you can help to
keep them safe. It’s just like the crosswalk folks. So, you want to keep that
computer in a public visible area of your home. Let’s stay away from bedrooms,
let’s stay away from closed doors. Because you need to have your eyes on
your little ones as they’re online. One of the most important things we can do
is to teach our children. So, pointer number 2 for you on keeping our kids
safe online is to teach them to keep private information private. You don’t go
out to the mall and broadcast your bank account information to everybody in the
mall. In a similar way, you don’t go out and broadcast your specific address or
your date of birth or your mother’s maiden name on the internet. Because
these are the kinds of information that people can use to exploit or to
victimize other people on the internet. So, we teach our children that if
somebody asks for specific identifying information from them online, that they don’t give it out. It’s a pretty simple step but a very important
one. Pointer number 3, you are the parent. Be the parent. In your browser and
on some of the platforms that are available to your children online,
there’s something called parental controls. Wow!
What an idea. So, you get to go in and set those controls and those filters and
those parameters around content that you feel is appropriate for your child.
Be the parent. Use the filtering software. Use the parental controls but do not
rely exclusively on those filters. We’re not negating tip number one which
is to keep your eyes on them. Provide the supervision in the chaperoning. My fourth
pointer for you today is an elaboration of the second. We’re going back to
teaching but I want to specifically suggest that we teach correct principles
which will empower our children to start adopting a form of self-government so
that they can operate according to their own moral compass. This provides
prevention for all of the risky behaviors that they could be involved
with. When I think of prevention, I think of a poem written by Joseph Malins clear
back in the 1800s. The late 1800s. And here’s how it goes. “It was a dangerous
cliff as they freely confessed. Though to walk nears crest was so pleasant. But
over it’s terrible edge, there had slipped a Duke and full many a peasant.
So the people said something would have to be done. But their projects did not at
all tally. Some said put a fence around the top of the cliff. Some an ambulance
down in the valley. But the call for the ambulance carried the day for it spread
to the neighboring city. A fence may be useful or not, it is true. But each heart
became full of pity for those who slipped over the dangerous cliff. And the
dwellers in highway and alley, gave pounds and gave pants. Not to put up a
fence but an violence down in the valley. For the
cliff is alright if you’re careful, they said. And though folks even slip and are
dropping, it isn’t the slipping that hurts them so much. As the shock down
below when they’re stopping. So, day after day is these mishaps occurred, quick
forth with those rescuers Sally to pick up the victims who fell off the cliff
with their ambulance down in the valley. Then an old sage remarked. It’s a marvel
to me that people give far more attention to repairing results than to
stopping the cause. When they’d much better aim at prevention. Let us stop at
its source all this nonsense, Cried he. Come neighbours and friends, let us rally.
If the cliff we will fence, we might almost dispense with the ambulance down
in the valley. Uh, he’s a fanatic. The others rejoined. Dispense with the
ambulance? Never. He’d dispense with all charities too, if he could. No. No. We’ll
support them forever.” Aren’t we picking up folks just as fast as they fall? And
will this man dictate to us, will he? Why should people of cents stop to put up a
fence? While the ambulance works in the valley? Then the sensible few who are
practical too will not bear with such nonsense much longer. They know that
prevention is better than cure. And their party will soon be the stronger.
Encourage them then with your purse voice and pen. And while other
philanthropist dally, they will score in all pratense and put up a stout fence
round that cliff that hangs over the valley. Better guide well the young then
reclaim them when old. For the voice of true wisdom is calling. To rescue the
Fallen is good but it’s best to prevent other people from falling. Better close
up the source of temptation and crime then deliver from dungeon or Gally.
Better put a strong fence at the top of the cliff than an ambulance down in the
valley.” A big out out to Nova principals Foundation.
You can connect to Nova principals at who are some of
the best fence builders in the industry. I think it’s important to do what we can
to prevent our kids from getting over the cliff into these risky behaviors. And
you can do this too. Connect with Nova I wish I had known


9 Replies to “How To Protect My Child On The Internet”

  1. Tina Lynn says:

    I don't allow my teen on .. but I thought YouTube was safe…. NOPE found out that sex and everything is on here so I shut it off when he is here…sorry he likes you but he don't need YouTube

  2. Love of music says:

    ๐Ÿ‘ that was awesome performance. I've watched it over and over again.. really great

  3. Brooke Rodgers says:

    Love the poem, thank you for sharing!

  4. Chituga Khalifa says:

    If your fourteen year old kids are bigger than you, donโ€™t protect them from internet

  5. I Love The Colour Pink says:

    Kids under 16 shouldnt be allowed on the internet other than for homework end of problem

  6. I don't want a channel I'm just commenting says:

    @3:00. Yes it is very scary that there are predators younger than my child. I mean my kid acts like they have a law degree, but to find a predator child younger than that…. it's like if chucky had a cellphone and a computer.

  7. Gina McGrew says:

    Excellent points and poem Dr. Paul!!๐Ÿ‘

  8. rjtooill rjtooill says:

    Thank you, Dr Paul. The poem was wonderful!

  9. ุงู„ุญู…ุฏ ู„ู„ู‡ says:

    Such a great channel . I love it so much espicially when your sweet wife with you she is wonderful
    Your fan from saudi arabia๐Ÿ˜Š

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