How to Use Protection and other lessons SexEd should Teach | Lady Confessions | HelloGiggles

November 22, 2019 posted by


Why did they just tell me
I was gonna get my period but they didn’t teach
me how to use a tampon? I don’t understand. They said use contraception, but then they never like told
us what contraception was, or that there were multiple different kinds of birth control, and how for women your hormones will be severely affected by birth control use. They teach you abstinence,
but they don’t teach you how to actually communicate
with your partner and that’s like the most important part. It’s the emotional part of it. They’re like oh be safe, be careful, but they don’t really tell girls or even boys even this is a huge thing, that you should really take it with ease. There’s just so much lack of information and misinformation. I went to a Catholic school, so you can imagine that I didn’t really learn very much except for abstinence. There was just nothing to it other than like the philosophical
like abstinence talk. I wish we were made aware of like social, emotional ways to
navigate sexual interactions. What I wish I would’ve learned about sex? How to. I didn’t know what the heck
was going on with anything. There was no science. Like no one knew how to put a condom on. I’m pretty sure all of
the boys in my high school learned how to do that from porn. The pleasure of sex and
like how it’s sometimes recreational and not just
for like procreating, because that’s mostly what it’s about now. Being a South Asian woman, this is not something we’re like… Sex, periods and reproductive education are things that are not given to women. It’s culturally taboo
I guess to talk about, and I think that’s absolute bulls–t. Why did they just tell me
I was gonna get my period but they didn’t teach
me how to use a tampon? I don’t understand. A lot of girls can’t just
come from regular penetration. Girls should be more
vocal and don’t be afraid to tell someone what you want. It’s like a weird thing to talk about if you’ve never talked about it before, or if you’re still new to it. You can be vocal about what you like. Just like having the conversation, which is like awkward and funny sometimes, but I think it’s worth it. If you’re a brown girl out
there and you wanna have sex, it’s not something you should
be ashamed for wanting. I mean this is so timely. There’s no shame in loving a trans person, because I’m just a woman. I think people get so freaked out by it, and it’s not a thing. I’m just human. I’m real. Rejection and boundaries. Respecting people’s boundaries
and reframing rejection to be something positive. They acknowledged their boundaries and they’re willing to
communicate that to you. That should be praised. I think that’s super valuable
for newer generations, even my generation. Older generations. Everybody. Sexuality is fun but just be safe. Your energy is sacred.

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One Reply to “How to Use Protection and other lessons SexEd should Teach | Lady Confessions | HelloGiggles”

  1. The Watcher says:

    Right, all they tell you is stuff's gonna happen to you, yeah stuff's gonna happen to me, so what do I do about it?…

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