September 15, 2019 posted by

Hey guys It`s Nikki and in this video i`ll
talk about defensive mechanisms, interested stay to find out more.
In the previous video we talked about the different types of fear and where they come
from* in this video we continue the topic/theme with defensive mechanisms but this segment
is a bonus to the series because it`s actually Sigmund Freud`s daughter Anna Freud who talks
about them in her book: Ego and the mechanisms of defence.
The defensive mechanisms are used as a protection when the Ego sees a threat from Superego,
Id and so on. Let`s start with something familiar, the first
mechanism is sublimation, remember That is, when you have a crush on your best friend’s
mother and as a result you become a professional tennis player out of guilt. That`s a defence
mechanism which tries to protect you from the guilt itself. The ego redirects the libidos
energy into socially accepted goal. Next one is Denial: there is a reason why
the first of the twelve steps in alcoholism treatment (and not only) is acceptance. Just
think about it, you deny you have a problem therefor you don`t have to deal with with,
life is good, you don`t have to worry. The trouble with that is that you get kick out
of your apartment because you`ve spent the money for the rent on drinking.
And then when you are kicked out but still don`t want to deal with your own alcoholism,
you use rationalization- this apartment was horrible I needed to move out anyway, it`s
better it happened like this. It`s all for good and so on. You`ve used it so successfully
that now again you are free from worry just homeless but hey you can always go back to
your parents’ house, right. So now you live with your parents and still
continue to drink heavily but your father starts making a problem out of it and once
again you feel threatened so you start going to your mother as a refuge, crying on her
shoulder just like when you were a little boy. That`s regression going back to a past
stage of development or in short acting like a child.
Your father keeps bugging you nonstop. You`re soo pissed off but the house is on his name
so it`s really not a good idea to enrage him to deal with your own anger you use displacement
which means that you fight with everyone but your father( who is the cause for your outbursts)
and just to make things more fun you use projection and say that everyone around you is mad and
trying to pick a fight with you when in reality you are the the one picking the fights.
Your mother had it and sits you down to tell you, you`re acting like a complete jerk and
it`s time to get your shit together. You lash out at her but she`s never done something
like that. Telling you those kind of words. So that gets you thinking and suddenly you
see her point. Now you`re overwhelmed with guilt, fear, anxiety. All these emotions are
too much to take so it`s time for intellectualization. You start reading about addictive behavior,
at this point you`re aware that you`re alcoholic but the thought of it is so unbearable that
you turn it into something academic by making it a research and writing a scientific book
about it. You`re finally gone successfully through the
twelve step program and you are at that moment when you can`t even remember most of the horrible
things you`ve done, for real. You`ve buried them so deep in your mind that you`re surprised
and don`t believe when people are telling what you`ve done- that`s called repression.
But when you`re reminded about it you start feeling guilty, trying to get rid of it you
use compensation- buying your mother a diamond necklace, a new tv for your father and taking
excessive care to make your partner feel good. A very obvious compensation mechanism is also
a parent who buys toys for his/ her children when they work too much and they feel guilty
that they`re are unable to spent time with their kids.
Those were the defence mechanisms or the reaction formation we`ve talked about in the previous
part. What they actually do is to prevent us from expressing dangerous instincts by
making us act in some kind of opposite way. Much like how little boys pull girls braids
when they like them. That`s a reaction formation in action. Later on we might not even understand
what is so scary about this particular instinct but at this moment when we`ve had it, the
ego felt threatened from it and used defense mechanisms as a protection.
In the next video i`ll talk about Ulrich Beck`s theory so if you`re interested click on to
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might like them, all links will be also in the description, bye.

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