Transforming Compulsion — facing defence mechanisms from conscious awareness | Jon Bernie

September 13, 2019 posted by


Jon Bernie: Let’s just say that we live in
environment that has infinite choices. Infinite ways to entertain ourselves, perhaps. Right?
There’s so many — you can go on the internet and you could disappear into all the choices.
Right? And so, I think that this … when I speak about the relationship between what
might be called compulsive activity, compulsive behavior and how does that relate to the process
of becoming conscious. Well, it’s very connected and important. The reason is that when we
start to become conscious, when we start to discover that there is awareness, so to speak,
which is another way of describing awakened consciousness (awareness) that what we find
is that there is often these gravitational pulls towards certain things and away from
certain things. Right? So, we’re trying to get something, trying to get rid of something,
trying to understand something. And those 3 dynamics are the 3 main ways that we struggle
with reality. Ok? And, if we’re not conscious of those, then I would say those are compulsive
behaviors. But once we become conscious of them, then
just by bringing awareness to those dynamics, the space begins to open up, the space into
awareness begins to open up. And that can be a very bumpy ride. It can be very painful
and difficult. And often people need support through that process, to allow it to fully
gestate, to fully open up. Ok? So, people often have a little emotional release,
have a little consciousness arising, but then the contraction of protection and defense
kicks back in. So, in an environment like satsang, where there is teaching going on,
when there is that mirroring of presence, it holds the space for allowing a full discharge,
or full opening into awareness. And all manner of struggle can all of a sudden disappear. And usually people find themselves in a very
different state of mind, a very different state of body, a very different, kind of … there
can really be a profound shift at that point. And the reason for that is that there is a
force field, a kind of gravitational force field of the compulsion that all of a sudden
becomes conscious. We’re not doing it. See, this is the tricky
part. We’re not in control of this. It’s more that we learn how to give attention to what’s
really happening. You know? Because the movement … what compels us is unfelt emotion. And
when emotion can be fully felt without action, when that can actually discharge, then we’re
in equanimity, the we can have intuition, and yes, we can go have dinner at a restaurant
somewhere. You know what I mean? Then it isn’t like … you’re not thrown into it, you’re
not like gravitationally thrown into it. It’s more that it is clear that this is … “oh,
now this.” So, there is the end of that compulsion. This idea of embracing … I don’t know if
I’d say embracing compulsivity, but I would certainly say to begin to realize that it
is very much a part of the process of transformation. Often people want to get rid of the difficult
experiences. They want to avoid the so-called compulsive, the addictive. They want to judge
it, get rid of it, stop it, you know, willpower themselves not to do it. Right? And actually,
what’s really is important is to really let it be. Not necessarily, but to really acknowledge
it. To tell the truth about it. That’s what I often talk about is the most important element
is being able to tell the truth, to fully disclose the condition. And in that, freedom
is possible. So, embracing compulsivity would be to really
be able to have that awareness … allow that. And that is really what cultivates what I
would call compassion and big heart. And unconditional love really. And compassion for our human
conditioning which is not conscious. No, people are beating themselves up for what,
really, they’re not doing consciously at all. It’s not operating from a conscious place. So, once we can see that, “Oh, there it goes
again.” You know, whatever that behavior is, or those thought patterns, or those emotional
movements, then we begin to see it from a bigger perspective. We begin to see it from
this vastness that we are. And, as we see it from that, then it can return, it can begin
to unwind, and literally re-energize and expand that space of awareness. So, it actually facilitates
the process of transformation. It’s another … I’m thinking of Suzuki Roshi
again, he used to say, you know, you can take the weeds out of the … that are growing
around the plant, you pull them out and then you stick them back in and it nourishes the
soil. That’s what it means. So, everything is energetic; everything is
fundamentally energy. And, that’s why I like to talk about this in terms of what I call
energy management. And to take away the, sort of, definition of spiritual practice. That
seems like a very old way of thinking and has a lot of … people have lots and lots
of projections onto that. And speak about it much more, kind of, practically. Energy
management. So that emotion and compulsivity and all these human difficulties are just
energies that are trying to find balance, to really find the movement that they need
to have. And our defense mechanisms literally stop those movements from happening. And so,
we’ve learned how to block the flow of energy. Literally. So we have to re-learn how to allow
that. And in an environment where we can be safe, because it can be very unsettling, very
destabilizing. People can have kriyas, they can have intense emotional release, they can
have laughter. You’ve seen it. We have all of it in satsang. Where people have all kinds
of … all manner of change. Right?

8 Comments

8 Replies to “Transforming Compulsion — facing defence mechanisms from conscious awareness | Jon Bernie”

  1. Brandon Lee says:

    Videos like this give me hope

  2. Nicolas Grasslin says:

    Thanks Jon. My utmost gratitude.

  3. Steve Abeles says:

    5:52 – 7:00 is Jon at his very finest. So amazingly clear! And the Jon Bernie smile to close it out…..love it with the big heart

  4. Maurizio Esposito says:

    Energy management vs spiritual practice, what a great way to look at it. Thank you for this perspective.

  5. Shazbut01 says:

    Beautiful. What is that word that Jon says at 6:48? I can't make it out. Sounds like it begins with C

  6. Cosmic Consciousness with Jonas says:

    so brilliantly said!!! thank you so much Jon!

  7. Bharat Patel says:

    Just spent all morning watching Jon's YouTube videos and loved everything he says, especially his laughter and joyous manor – grounded in an acceptance of the human condition. Thanks for sharing Jon – you are a wonderful, wise, being.

  8. superduperdom says:

    I do like Jon's open and holistic approach to awakening. It is the way forward I feel, in a field that is often backward looking, nihilistic, and actually dualistic in its rush for the 'absolute'.

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